2003-11-04 | 5:16 p.m.
mutual, i'm sure

a while back jeff posted an entry about if he is living up to my "indecently high standards" based on my post at girlboy.diaryland.com (through which he found me).  he never successfully posted such a list at girlboy, but he did post it in his diary.  i thought i'd be a copy cat and see how i stand up to his list:

I would like a girl who...

...loves life as much as she loves me.

i do love life; i think it's funny and exciting.  and i love jeffrey a lot and a lot and a lot.  most of all, i love life with jeffrey.

...accepts me for who I am, and doesn't feel the need to change me.

i can't totally say yes to this one.  i've been working on getting him not to smoke (which, in his defense he hardly ever does, but i'd prefer never) or take the lord's name in vain, but mostly i think he's just wonderful.

...is a little bit more open-minded than I am.

this one's kinda hard to quantify.  i think i am about some things and not about others, and we balance each other out.

...doesn't smoke, because I never want to start again.

i never have and never will, and, like i already mentioned, i do my best to make sure he doesn't 'cause there're just so many reasons why it's just not okay.

...makes me laugh.

he hates it when i do that... well, at least when i tickle him to make him laugh.

...remembers what I like to order at certain restaurants.

yeah, but it's usually a turkey burger, so that makes it pretty easy to remember.

...has a strong appreciation for film and music.

although i very much do, i find that my appreciation of the aforementioned items pales in comparison to jeff's.  it works out nicely for me 'cause he does all the work keeping on top of that kind of stuff, and he has nearly impeccable taste; he introduced me to some bands that are now among my favorites.  i say "nearly" because he likes rainer maria and natalie merchant and has a strange nostalgic affinity for death metal.

...I can cook for.

even though it's hard, i let jeff cook me dinner every day. jk (about it being hard. what girl would not appreciate this?).  he's a great cook.

...remembers the bad times but only talks about the good.

i think this one comes from that poetic place in jeff that never manifests itself in my direction, so i don't know exactly what to think about it... i guess i can say yes, but as a couple we've not really had that many bad times to speak of.

...loves the fact that I am skinnier than she.

i do. i find it very sexy. is that weird?

...prefers regular Coke, not Diet Coke.

i don't drink coke, but as a rule i detest diet anything, so if i did drink coke, i can say with a good amount of surety that it would be the regular kind.

...has long enough fingernails to give me back scratches.

i've never been one to have particularly long nails – mine won't ever get very far past the ends of my fingers before they start breaking – but you'd be surprised how short nails can be and still be plenty long enough for back scratches.

...understands how I can like both punk and folk music.

totally. what i don't understand is why anyone would think that you couldn't.

...will still want to hold my hand when we're sixty.

oh, i'll still want to do a lot more than that!  ew.  i am sorry about the visual that may come with reading that... but yes, i most definitely will.

...doesn't mind that I write songs about other girls.

i don't pass this one at all.  i get kinda freaked out when he just sings the songs he wrote about "other girls" (i put that in quotes because, as far as i can tell, they're only about one other girl) before he even knew me.  i think i would very much not like it if he were composing new ones... especially since i'm kinda jealous that i don't evoke his poeticism.

...loves kids (even the screaming, crying ones).

i don't "even" love the screaming, crying ones.  i especially love them.  that's when they need it most.

...isn't afraid.

well, i guess i kinda screwed myself on being able to say i meet this criterion with my last entry because even though i said, "i have been...the brave one and the strong one..." and i think that i usually am – i take big chances more than infrequently – i also said in that last entry precisely, "i am afraid."  i'm just a person; it happens sometimes.

...I fall in love with every time I see her.

you'd have to ask him about this one, but i know that the reverse is true.  absolutely.